Just look at the birds, they will show you the way. Birds fly with two wings. So, also if you want to attain to a state of happiness that you are looking forward to, you need to have the two wings of effort and surrender.
As long you are an individual with an identity of your own, you will have to put forth your sincere efforts for anything that you want to achieve in life, from self improvement to Self realization. Your purushartha or self effort is very important.
But mere self effort is not enough. You need to surrender to and have trust in the Divine and Divine Grace. With trust and love for the Divine, if you put forth your full efforts, you will surely reach your ground.
Just practice meditation regularly, and when all is well, bring thoughts of positive light and positive affirmation alive, so that you are soaked with Light of the Divine.
Keep trying, don't look for results, "to work you have the right, but not the fruits thereof" says Lord Krishna in Gita.
The whole concept of Willpower and Grace is quite complex at first, but as you dive deeper into the world of the innocence and silence that is Spirituality, you get to know that without the two wings the bird of your Spirit can not fly to the space where it could be effortless gliding.
When you turn away from your out going senses and give yourself an inward turn and contemplate in your own heart, you see for yourself Who sits there from time immemorial singing the Celestial Song, and calling you back HOME sweet Home. Once you are Home, your assumption of being homeless and orphaned are given up once and for all, and you are eternally Happy.


